AFTER A SPOUSE DIES

The death of a life partner is heartbreaking. After a spouse dies, many people wonder how to even think about moving forward with life. Of course, there first needs to be a period for grieving. During the early grieving period, life may seem to stop in many ways, and it may seem inconceivable that life will ever move forward again. While other family and friends may seem to have moved on with their lives, someone who has recently lost a life partner will most likely need more time - in some cases a lot of more time - to return to being fully involved in life.    


If you have recently lost your life partner, it's important to know that every person grieves in their own way and in their own time, and that there are no rules for this process. The way that your partner died, the type of relationship you had, the type of social support you have, whether you or not you have a job outside your home, your culture and family background, and your own psychology and personal response to loss, all influence how you respond to this life-altering loss.   


In addition to the pain of losing a love, there are innumerable life adjustments that need to be made: preparing meals alone and eating alone; taking care of all the household and financial tasks alone; possibly needing to learn new skills in order to accomplish the added responsibilities; and sleeping alone, just to name a few. These and many other changes that occur after the death of a life partner can be painful, frustrating and confusing. Other people may have advice about how to move forward, and about what you "should" do at this point. This unsolicited advice can sometimes be helpful, but in other cases may just feel insensitive and upsetting. 


After you have moved through the grieving process, and you are ready to begin thinking about a new chapter in  life, you may experience mixed emotions. While there can be excitement about the prospect of starting a new chapter - where you can make whatever decisions you choose, there may also be feelings of guilt. All of these complex feelings and issues are to be expected, and are a normal part of the healing process. Turning Point Life Coaching can be there to support and guide you as you begin rebuilding your life.

If you are interested in learning more about how Turning Point Life Coaching can support and guide you as you move forward into this new chapter of your life, complete the form on the contact page to arrange for a complimentary coaching consultation.